If life sucks make molehills out of mountains

If life sucks make molehills out of mountains

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There are times when it seems you are down and out and you’ve had the living daylights kicked out of you. When everything in your life seems to go off-road and you just can’t stop those suicidal thoughts.
We’ve all been there!!!

Given a choice none of us would like to feel less than ecstatic every waking moment of our life and to live happily ever after. Be it the everyday troubles, the stress, the brooding or just your garden variety depression we hate being there but even more we hate ourselves for feeling less than perfect and the harder we try the more this negative emotion feeds on itself leading further frustration and the MLS Syndrome

The My life Sucks Syndrome

From young teenagers facing growing up issues to housewives with chronic depression or the middle aged man’s mid-life crisis people seem to be caught up in a vicious cycle of mental problems. And as it generally happens failure or dejection in one sphere of life spills over into the other spheres and pretty soon you feel beleaguered, angry and irritated. I don’t know about you but 
whenever I feel trapped like this my life kind of sucks!

Being sad or pensive is in itself not so bad according to me, after all these feelings are but part of a gamut of emotions we possess to express the state of our mind. But the problem is with the intensity with which we feel these negative emotions is not always proportional to the real cause or gravity of the situation that actually triggered these feelings

Say for instance there’s this young girl who is feeling depressed and contemplating suicide due to a romantic breakup on the one hand and a mature man or woman with a horrendous situation where the husband/wife is either ill or deceased and the child has some complicated illness and he/she is penniless. Who would you empathize with? Surely the latter but can you truly argue that the young girl’s feelings are any less intense, frivolous they may be

All of us pine in grief like there is no tomorrow!!!

 

How to be yourself again?

While I am no expert and neither do I claim to write an exhaustive treatise on this subject, I have had a fair share of ups and downs, rude knocks and bumpy rides and all I want is to share and engage. I want to start a conversation and to collate how we all deal with the side effects of living in these modern times.

What do you do when you feel the blues? Do you go see a shrink, a counselor? Or maybe you have a mentor or a friend to whom you unburden your woes. Do you read the best self help books, or do you find solace in inspirational or motivational quotes? Do you practice positive self-talk or ask thought provoking questions. Maybe you have a novel way to ride the waves of despair that you would like to share here with us.

Whatever it is that we do, and we all need to do different things because we are all wired differently, we face different situations, sometimes real sometimes imaginary and we all have an absolutely unique experience set, we do need to do something positive and proactive to get out of this self-cannibalizing abyss of depression and insecurity for the simple reason that we deserve better.

My situation is so bad nobody can do anything about it

There are genuinely people out there who have heart wrenching stories of personal tragedy and loss and on more occasions than once I am speechless. Sometimes this whole world seems cruel and apathetic and the despair threatens to engulf all the hope and faith that yet remains.

For all of you out there who read these words and to whom the above applies I cannot understand what you have gone through but what I do understand is that you still need to move on in life. You can wear your misfortunes like a badge of honor and you are fully justified in doing so.

But do not wait for an avenging God to reverse the scales and rid you of your pain. You are going to have to do it yourself, not all at one go but bit by bit. Letting go of the memories of pain is just the beginning.

And by the by when you find that life is not so much a burden after all and that you stop asking “Why me” you may truly be on the path to healing and 

the steep mountain on the way to redemption may actually turn out to be merely a molehill!!!